It is a well-known fact that more people used to go to church than they do now – in the Developed world at least – and it is another well-known fact that it tends to be the older people who go to church, perhaps because they would like to hedge their bets before it gets a little late. Well, now the Baby Boomers are becoming old, so does that mean that the Western religions will see a revitalization?
It is also the case that people have got used to travelling away from their town of birth to find work, which has been made easier by a better infrastructure, better public transport and cheaper cars, so many people might find themselves in an region, where they have lived for years, but where they do not know traditional institutions like the churches.
So what should someone do if they want to (re)kindle their religious custom at church in a town where they do not know anything of the churches, their histories or their clergy?
Well, the first and most obvious question to answer is: which denomination do you believe in the most? Let’s suppose you reply ‘Catholic’; if there is no Catholic Church in the region, would you be happy to go to a Protestant Church – a Baptist or a Methodist Church? The same is true of other religions, but I cannot give names with the same amount of assurance as when talking about Christianity.
If you are unsure, you are in a better place than many, because you can go on a fact-finding tour without any preconceptions. So, if you do not know which church or even which religion you favour, go to another one every week.
Sunday is not always the best day to go to a Christian church because it is the most crowded day of the week, but you will see on the notice board outside or in the foyer which other days the church holds services on.
If you are a white ‘Christian’ type, do not feel that you may not go into churches of denominations from all over the world, but take a little time to do some research first so that you do not flagrantly upset any customs or taboos.
For example, lots of religions forbid the wearing of shoes in church and some require that the head is covered. Ask a friend to go with you if you are uncertain. People of all religions are happy to take visitors who are sincere in their quest for enlightenment. Language may be your biggest stumbling block with religions established abroad.
If going into a church of an unfamiliar religion is too much, you could look on Google for on line forums that deal with the religion that you are interested in. That way, you are more likely to find information in your own language as well. There are many English-language forums on Islam, Buddhism, Judaism and more.
If you do walk into an unknown church alone, sit towards the back but endeavour not to sit yards and yards from the closest person or you will feel isolated. It is best to sit towards the back though because then you are not intruding and you can leave if you are not comfortable.
When the service is over, do not be in a hurry to leave. Merely sit there quietly, reading through the hymn book.
Give it ten minutes or so. By then, someone ought to have noticed that they have a stranger in their midst and someone should have come over to see how you are.
Some churches will even offer you tea or coffee, biscuits and a chat. This is your chance to see how friendly the congregation is. If no-one comes to you to introduce themselves, I personally would not go back there.
If no-one comes over to you, say hello to the person who gave the service on the way out, but endeavour to be one of the last out so that they have the time to talk to you if they want to. Again, if they only shake your hand, mutter something about ‘nice to see you again’ and move on to the next one, so would I – I would move onto the next church.
Owen Jones, the author of this piece, writes on a number of topics, but is currently concerned with religious beliefs in China. If you would like to kcurrently more go to What is Religious Belief?